Top 5-Get over it!

Finish line, crossing, resume, employment, rejection, interview process

Dear readers,

I have a confession. I like the articles on Linkedin. They are free, motivational speeches from successful people (I wonder why none of the Featured writers are people actually looking for a job, such as myself, hmmm). I like the articles when they are exactly what I am thinking because they make me feel like I am on the right track. I like other articles because they tell a story about someone that claims that he/she was stuck in the same situation as myself. Then there are the lists. “Top 5 things how to ace an interview”, etc etc. These are all reruns of the same list that was written by someone with common sense. However, I am going to make a list of anything at least once a week. My lists however, do not always include motivational talk.

This list this week includes ways to get over the fact that your application was rejected.

1. Positive thoughts. Yeah, it sucks. Yes, it sucks worse because you had already imagined yourself as a happy camper at that work, dressed well, telling jokes by the coffee machine and being very successful. But you know what, you probably thought the same before you took your current job. Honestly, you hit a bump and you got roughed up but it can only get you better for the next application. Even diamonds need to be cut and polished.

2. Do no be embarrassed. Similar to a relationship breakup, we sometimes are afraid of telling people about our rejection. They might think that we are losers, that could not get an interview or a job. This is mostly because human beings are self-centered. We constantly believe that everyone are spending their brain power on us. Everyone and their uncles are thinking about us and changing their perspective of us every moment. Everyone are keeping us in check and monitoring our steps, failures and successes. Geez, they are not. It is just your head. Our friends and family hold us in higher regard than we do. Seek support and let them know that, yes you are disappointed and hurt but you will bounce back.

3. Get back on the dance floor. According to  love gurus, the best way to get over your ex, is to get back on the market. Spend an hour finding another interesting job, go and meet people, apply for positions (you should never stop doing that), get other people to read your resume. Get in the mix, now!

4. Get organized and working. Your work is sometimes left alone and unattended after focusing (reads obsessing) on a specific interview process for a long time. Get back into your job, even if you desperately want to get out of it. Why? Because this is going to do at least two important things: a) It is going to get your confidence back and b) it is going to get you a better resume. Both of which are helpful for your next interview.

5. Eat and exercise. No joke, this helps. It gets the negative thoughts out of your head. It pumps you full with happy enzymes. The best thing is to train for an event, 2K, 5K or 10K. This is extremely helpful to get things into perspective. Getting your dream job is just like a marathon. Few people can finish it without some preparation. You will have to train for it, starting smaller and than increasing. You will become tired. You will want to give up. But in the end, crossing that finish line will be worth every single victory.

Do you have another advice for me? Leave it in the comments. 


First big disappointment-MoFo rejection.

Rejected, job, resumes

Dear readers,

yesterday was a tough day. Not because I had to face someone or some challenge. It was mostly tough inside my head. I did not make it through MoFo’s strenuous interview process. The interview process was in four parts, starting with the common resume process, followed by a phone interview with one of the associates or the partners. If you made a good impression, you enter a writing contest where you need to summarize two patents (in my case it was the Myriad BRCA2 patent and a banana cutter). The last stage is the interview stage, where you are interviewed with two partners and the staff to see if you would be a good fit into the culture. I never made it to that step since my writing exercise was not up to MoFo’s standard. *Sad song.

Rejections are sometimes hard to swallow. Whatever the reason was (please comment the reason you did not get a job), your automatic thought is always:

“I am not good enough” or “I am not cut out for this.”

This is exactly where my head was yesterday, bouncing back and forth with those two to try to make sense out of it all. Trying to make myself feel better. Making myself face reality and face those two sentences head on. Make myself stop dreaming, because it hurts when they do not come true. It hurts. After the wrestling with my brain for the whole day, I realized something. I realized that I have two options. A) Just go with the flow, continue to sink and stop believing in my ability, eat more, exercise less, become unhealthy, start drinking Jack Daniels in the morning, stop showing up for work (ok enough, you know where this is heading) OR B)Realize that I need to do better to put my resume at the top, I need to write more efficiently and most of all, the only thing I need is to IMPROVE my system and training. I picked the latter since I did not have any Jack Daniels in the house.

 What would you teach your kids, if they were facing the same difficulty as you?

To give up or get dirty?

Another Monday

Dear Readers, 

Yes, another monday. I can not describe the feeling I have but I am going to try. Overwhelmed. Angry. Unfair. Well, today my PI gave out to me after I spent my weekend applying for other jobs. He demanded that I was working for him and I needed to focus my efforts on that. A little bit unfair, since he can not promise me or has not told me that he could pay me until the end of my contract. I believe that he is completely in the wrong here, I am being sensible so I am applying for jobs during my weekends because it is the right thing to do. None of his business what I am doing during my private time. So I have decided to disregard anything that my PI says. It is my life after all. 

Again, rejection from Cooley. I decided to reply to the email and state that I was determined to get a job with them, so please could you tell me what was actually wrong with my resume. I know, I am only a postdoc with experience in 3 different bioscience fields (Chemistry, Biochemistry and microbiology) but what is missing? Not expecting an answer from that one at all. 

Remember, “Thoughts, only thoughts.”